deep down

You know what I think is strange?  How a person can go through life with the same brothers and sisters, the same mother, and the same father, but when it comes to staying with the same spouse they think that is miraculous or even ridiculous.  No one chooses their siblings or parents and yet they stand by them.  They get angry, yes.  They get bored, yes.  They may even think, "wow, I wish I had a mom like that!" (or sibling, or dad).  Yet through it all they don't once think of seriously severing these relationships.  They know, deep down, they love their family and they would do what it takes no matter what to be there when their family needed them.  They know, despite the arguing, or disagreements; despite the clash of personalities they love something even deeper about their family. 

I've noticed couples where one person is bored, they want a divorce.  Or one person has so much built up anger and bitterness so they want a divorce.  They see another woman or man and think to themselves, "Wow, I wish I had a wife/husband like that!" so they want a divorce.  They say they have fallen out of love.  They say it's too late to get things healthy in their relationship again.  They say it's just not how they thought it would be.

I'm confused that even though we have no choice into which family we're born and we're often significantly different in personalities and other areas, we still love and maintain relationships with our family.  But when it comes to our marriage partner, for whom we diligently searched, tested waters, meditated about, and conciously decided this is the person I want to spend my life and eternity with we all of a sudden feel justified in deciding to get a divorce, because this wasn't really what we bargained for.

Whatever!

I understand that a spousal relationship is unique from any other familial relationship in several ways.  But isn't that all the more reason to maintain the relationship?

I could go on about this, but it's getting late.  I will simply say that I love Troy because we can have disagreements and still be able to joke with each other.  We can even be bored at times, but still be confident in each other's love and commitment.  We know there is something deeper than all that stuff that we love about each other and that will hold us together forever.